Love is often defined in so many ways by people from different generations from all walks of life. But for those hopeless romantics out there, the catch phrase, “Love at First Sight” does ring a bell and a sudden urge of excitement comes through.
But, did you know that this widely romanticized word may not be as strong as the feeling that it supposedly conveys. In a story by Readers Digest, it was revealed that a new study published in the Journal of the International Association for Relationship Research, “love at first sight,” or “LAFS” is almost always “a strong initial attraction,” i.e., lust.
This conclusion was made after data about 500 dating encounters from 200 participants were polled about their different feelings of attraction to their respective romantic partner for each encounter. The participants were Dutch and German students in their mid-20s.
The research was divided into three stages: an online survey, a laboratory study, and three dating encounters lasting no longer than 90 minutes apiece. After the dating encounters, the participants were asked if they felt something like LAFS during the date and to what degree they found their counterpart physically attractive (eros). The “love components” that were measured were “intimacy,” “commitment” and “passion.”
The study was 60 percent women, but the majority of the reported instances of LAFS were by men. When LAFS was reported, it was almost always not reciprocated.
This may be just another random survey. Of course, this may be proven true or false, what remains important is that in love, two people has to continuously work on each other so that the relationship can also work and prosper in the many years ahead.