“Proud kasambahay” finishes his study as Magna Cum Laude

We all have dreams in life. Some people could have it so early while others could have it later than the expected. Others are just so lucky to have it as soon as possible but some would still need to have enough courage and sacrifice to make it come true. But whether it’s too early or too late, dreams do really come true.

Let’s be inspired of the story which was shared on Facebook recently.  His name is  Jarel Barcelona Tadio. He shared how he worked very hard to make his dreams come true.

According to him, he started dreaming when he realized that the life he has is not the same with others whose lives are rich enough and comfortable. All the years, he thought that he was only dreaming a very simple dream- and that is to help his family and improve their living status.

When he was in elementary, he always heard of his classmates talking about their dream professions in the future. Like becoming a teacher, a nurse, an architect, and a doctor. When he was asked about his dream profession, he couldn’t even answer. He only said that he only wanted to make his family’s life better and he would be fine.

He was full of hopes and dreams but he knows that he’s only going to study until high school. The reason why he couldn’t even answer their questions. His life has already taught him a lot since elementary. As he said, every vacation, they would go to other places to work at a rice granary because they don’t have their own piece of land.

He has realized and appreciated every sweat and sacrifice his parents are doing for them since then. Until he has finished high school. His friends are now into the college they intend to enter but him even if he has the college he wanted to enter but he’s not going to study though. So, what for? He’s parents need him and his support.

He stared working. First was an on call catering crew. The salary was so small so he started to look for another job. He became a maid and he’s proud of it. Working as a maid, made him thought about the importance of education that he decided to study as a working student.

Being a working student was really tough for him but what was tougher was when he was discriminated and belittled by his own relatives. He suffered but he goes on. He graduated in college as Magna Cum Laude. Something that he should really be proud of himself for not giving up. All of his sacrifices are worth it!

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Let me start by saying: “A dream is a vision of a possibility which requires a driven mind and a resilient heart to turn such dream into a reality.”

Nagsimula ako mangarap nung mapagtanto kong iba ang buhay na meron ako sa buhay ng mga batang nasa paligid ko – na marangya at di hamak na mas komportable ang buhay nila kesa sa akin.

All the years I thought I was only dreaming of a very simple dream: to give my family a better life and improve our living status. That was the dream I considered my humble dream since when I was a kid.

When I was in elementary, I used to hear my classmates talking about their dream profession. Some wanted to become a teacher, a nurse, an architect and some wanted to become a doctor.

One time they asked me, Jah anong gusto mo paglaki?

Noong tinanong ako sa totoo lang hindi ako nakasagot agad, napatahimik lang bigla ako, napa-isip at nakaramdam ng konting pag-asa, pero alam mo yung pag asa na may halong lungkot…

Sa mahina at nahihiyang boses, ang sagot ko: “Wala. Wala akong gustong maging in the future. Basta mai-ayos ko lang buhay nila mama, ok na ako.”

Pero ang tunay dahilan kung bakit ganun lang ako sagot ko nun ay kasi alam ko naman na hindi ako makapag aaral pagkatapos ng high school. Alam nyo yung punong-puno ka ng pangarap at pag-asa pero ikaw mismo alam mo yung katotohang hanggang high school ka nalang.

Elementary palang ako, naipamulat na sa akin ang hirap ng buhay. Sa tuwing bakasyon, pumupunta kami sa Apayao at Kalinga para maki-palay, kasi wala kaming sariling lupang sasakahan. Laking putik ako. Laking dumi kami. Nakikisaka lang kami. Laking bukid ako kaya alam ko ang halaga ng bawat butil ng pawis na tutulo sa mga magulang ko. Kaya alam ko ang bawat sakripisyo nila.

Hanggang noong matapos ang high school, ganun ang kwento. Sakrispisyo talaga. At naniniwala ako na hindi ko lang ito kwento. Malamang maraming tulad ko ang lumaki sa bukid.

Nuong patapos na ako sa high school, one time, my classmates were talking about the school they intend to enter in College.

As usual, they asked me: “Jah san ka mag aaral sa College?”

Sa totoo lang meron na ako naisip kung saan ako mag aaral nuon pero ang sagot ko sakanila: “eh ano.. Hindi naman ako mag-aaral. Maghahanap agad ako ng trabaho, kailangan kasi nila mama ang tulong ko.”

Dahil sa kalagayan ng buhay namin, naging isa akong estudyante na mas piniling kalimutan ang pangarap mag-aral sa kolehiyo at makapagtapos ng Degree, dahil noon palang alam ko na sa sarili ko na hindi ako magaaral.

Isang araw kinausap ako ng mama ko, ang sabi nya: “Nak susubukan naming suportahan ang inyong pag-aaral anak, gagawa kami ng paraan.”

Nung sinabi nya yun, alam nyo yung biglang lakas ng tibok ng puso ko, yung tipong gusto ko magsisigaw sa labas ng bahay namin sa sobrang kasiyahan, pero syempre hindi ang galak ng puso ko ang isinagot ko sakanya.

Ang sagot ko nun: “wag na ma, malulubog lang tayo sa utang.”

Pero ang katotohanan, sinabi ko lang yun kasi mas kailangan nila ang pinansyal na tulong. Sa likod ng katotohanang hindi nila ako mapag aaral, hanggang langit parin yung pangarap ko mag-College. May lungkot at inggit, yung iba pinag-aaral ng magulang pero ayaw mag aral, samantalang ako, gustong gustong mag aral pero hindi makapag aral dahil sa kakulangan ng pera.

Labin-limang taon palang ako, nag tatrabaho na ako. After graduating in High School, I immediately looked for job. My first job was in catering services. Nag crew ako pero on call lang, sobrang liit ng sweldo at kulang talaga. Matapos ang dalawang buwan napagdesisyonan kong maghanap ng regular na trabaho.

Namasukan ako bilang maid. Oo, katulong po, yaya. Kasambahay. Pero taas nuo ako sa naging trabaho ko. Marangal yun. At ang masaya dun, libre na ang tulugan, libre pa ang pagkain, libre meryenda, libre tv, libre cable at libre wifi. Saan ka pa!

Sabi ko nun, hindi man ako masuportahan ng aking mga magulang sa pag aaral, gagawa ako ng paraan para mapag aral ko ang sarili ko. Hindi ako papayag na hindi ako makakapag aral. Hindi ako papayag na ganun ganun nalang. Hindi ko isusuko ang pangarap ko.

In first year of working as kasambahay, I really found it difficult. One afternoon, when I was doing my chores, I suddenly asked myself: “Jarel, forever ka na bang kasambahay? Forever nalang bang ganito?”.

And those questions made realized something: the importance of dreaming, the importance of education.

Ultimately, that inspired me to continue my education. Nag WORKING STUDENT ako. Mahirap maging working student, aral sa umaga, trabaho sa hapon at gabi. Puyat at pagod ang kalaban, lalo kung may mga projects (hello catering teachers) at quizzes (hello cost control, bus. mathematics), tapos sasabayan ka pa ng teacher mong laging galit (hello maam………secret) at meron pa yung kung magpa recite kulang aminin naming kami ang bumaril kay Rizal.

Maliban pa dun, may mga taong hindi yata masaya na makita kang nagsisikap makamit ang pangarap mo.

I was discriminated – I was belittled, they all judged me because of my financial misfortune, and what pains me most…yung unang hindi maniniwala sayo, yung nanglalait sayo at yung unang mang-chichismis sayo ay yung mga kamag anak mo.

I suffered first from discrimination, poverty….
so i think it is natural for me to use this opportunity to speak for the people who are unable to speak for themselves.

I would never forget this, I heard them say: “Sino naman ang magpapaaral sa kanya eh, wala naman silang lupang sakahan. Madi maka graduate ata, hanggang pangarap lang atan.”

My dear friends, listen to me, remember this: people may talk behind us, people may not believe in us and people may drag us down but do not be shaken, we do not exist for them; because we live for the people who have faith in us – because this life is for our family.

I live for my life’s purpose, my purpose as a son, as a dreamer and as a determined person. I was neither born to impress nor to please them; much more that I don’t need to be liked by them. I was born to be myself, to reach my dreams, and to be the best version of myself – and that is my life’s purpose. Anyway at the end of the day, my purpose is my family.
My purpose is to believe in my dreams, to believe that dreams are whispered plans from the lord. To believe that no matter what my circumstance in life is.

DREAMS combined with faith and determination DO COME TRUE.

Difficulties and obstacles challenged my ability to work independently, to be a warrior. Honestly I can’t still believe that this day would come; that a simple working student from TUAO, CAGAYAN VALLEY would become a consistent dean’s lister and would stand in front of THOUSANDS of people sharing my thoughts of inspiration.

From the time I started dreaming, my biggest realization is, that I shall never give up on my dreams; I shall never surrender, and never let obstacles weaken and hinder my progress.

Ma, Pa, ito na po ang bunga ng bawat pagod, bawat puyat, bawat sakripisyo, bawat hirap at bawat luha.

Graduate na po ang anak nyo nyo’ at ito ay dahil sa hindi nyo ako pinabayaan, dahil sa pagtitiwala sa aking kakayahang tapusin ng matapang at tahakin ng may takot sa Dyos ang aking nasimulan.

I’d like to express my sincerest gratitude to the people who helped me stand and work for my dreams.

To my family, MA & PA, you are my inspiration. You are the very reason in every decisions, plans and actions I make. You are the reason behind these accomplishments. Ma, Pa, tagumpay nyo po ito, God just made me His instrument for you to know how successful you are. Ma, Pa lagi niyo pong tatandaan na mahal na mahal ko po kayo.

Kayo po ang rason kung bakit ako nagsikap na makapagtapos at magkaroon ng pangarap, pangarap sa aking sarili at sa ating pamilya. Ma, pa, magtatapos ako at magtatrabaho, ako po ang bahala sa inyo, tutulungan ko po si kuya. Promise ko yan Ma at papa. Ma, pa, aggrdauate tuy anak yun oh, adda pay bonus na. Huwag kayo mag alala mama papa, etong speech at yung diploma muna ang tanggapin nyo, pauna palang to, sa susunod may sobre na po.

To GUEVARA and BALLESTEROS family, my second family, maraming salamat po sa pagkupkop sa akin, sa pagtanggap sa akin ng buo bilang parte ng napakabuti nyong pamilya. Tatanawin ko po itong malaking utang na loob. Kay ate Ness Ballesteros Guevara, maraming salamat ate. You may be in Australia right now, but I just want you to know how much thankful I am that I met the kindhearted woman like you. Hindi ko alam kung pano kita papasalamatan ate. Napakabuti mo pong guro, anak, kapatid, at kaibigan. You are wonderfully amazing indeed. You will always be my best ate ever.

To my best friends Reynalin Pat and Angelica Guizanda Gorospe, you are both my anchors. Thank you for keeping my feet on the ground.

To CAGAYAN STATE UNIVERSITY, ADMINISTRATION and dear teachers, our mentors and my life coaches, thank you for the learning, skills, expertise and values that you imparted us. Those will be our weapons in our future career. We will make you proud. We will make marks in our own industry. We will always be a proud CSUAN.

Sir RC, thank you very much Sir for molding me as debater, thank you for giving me the opportunities to represent our College. It has been my honor to prove to the whole studentry of CSU that HIM students are intellectual beings. Maraming Salamat po

If it wasn’t for all of you, I wouldn’t reach this humble achievement.

Friends, just remember to give your best. Believe me, in moments of doubt, remember our family, especially our parents, our friends and love ones, they are always ready to guide and support us.

Let us not be afraid in facing challenges. Let’s pursue our dreams. Mapapagod pero hindi susuko. Masusugatan pero hindi aayaw. Mabibigo pero hindi bibitaw.

I WILL CONTINUE MAKING MY PARENTS THE PROUDEST. IT’S NOT THE EASIEST, BUT I BELIEVE IT’S CERTAINLY THE BEST.

ako po si Jarel Barcelona Tadio

proud KASAMBAHAY
proud MAGNA CUM LAUDE

He has done something great in his life and that is not to give up whatever challenges he may encounter along his way. He has inspired a lot of people and hope you were inspired too.