Maricar Reyes shares how “harmless” chat lead to cheating

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. There will always be problems that may arise but it is still up to the couple to deal with these and make their relationships stronger than ever.

Maricar Reyes and Richard Poon is one of the couples most people admire in the showbiz industry. Despite being both showbiz personalities, the two somehow managed to maintain the privacy of their relationship away from the public’s eyes.

Through a blog called Relationship Matters, Maricar aired out her opinion regarding how most couples consider as “harmless” messages can lead to cheating.

The said blog started off with a sample story told through the perspective of a committed girl along with another person who was known by the name Steve.


This is how the story went:

Years ago, I had a boyfriend and our relationship was having problems. Then a common friend introduced me to Steve (not his real name) at a party. I enjoyed talking to Steve that night, relieved to be away from the problems I had with my boyfriend.

Days after, we exchanged some “harmless” messages: “Stuck in traffic! What u doing?”, “Hey I just passed by your school!” , “Know any good restos in QC?” , “Bored! ‘Musta???”

I didn’t want to admit it back then, but Steve’s messages weren’t ordinary to me. May konting kilig, so I felt guilty. I’d make myself feel better by thinking, “I’m not doing anything wrong. Steve is just a friend.”

I kept my “harmless” chats with Steve from my boyfriend. I didn’t want to fight over “nothing.” Again, I told myself “Steve is just a friend…” Or a worse excuse: “I’m just getting a guy’s perspective on my relationship problems…”

Talking to Steve didn’t help my relationship AT ALL. I looked forward to Steve’s messages more than my boyfriend’s. I was becoming emotionally tangled with Steve. Looking back, this wasn’t as harmless as I thought.

Would I be OK, if my boyfriend was exchanging messages with a girl that he had some “kilig” for? It’s absolutely NOT OK. I would feel uncomfortable, or even betrayed. So it was unfair of me to do it to him.

 

As Maricar’s way of reflecting with the story she shared, she compared that situation to her present relationship with her husband Richard  Poon.

She says that people are often vulnerable to the “feel-good” emotion. It pushes people to make excuses for what they won’t admit in their hearts to be wrong or unfair —all in the name of “love.”

Maricar also shared that as their wat of being more open to each other, she and Richard tell each other in detail who they are attracted to. She also added that admitting the truth makes the kilig emotions less powerful. Hiding it from each other makes them stronger!

Together, they realized that fighting for a relationship is a team effort. Both parties involved should be completely committed to each other. As they say, “two is always better than one.”